How to Cope with Mom Guilt: 9 Ways to Make Yourself Feel Better
Do you ever feel guilty about the way you’re parenting? Do you sometimes feel like you’re not doing enough for your kids? You’re not alone. Many mothers feel guilty about the choices they make, big and small. In this blog post, we will discuss what mom guilt is as well as explain 10 ways to help make yourself feel better when you’re struggling with mom guilt. Let’s get started!
What is Mom Guilt?
Mom guilt is a term used to describe the guilt and anxiety that mothers feel about their parenting. It’s normal to feel like you’re not doing enough, but for some mothers, this feeling is more intense and constant which can lead to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and depression.
There are many factors that can contribute to mom guilt. Maybe you’re comparing yourself to other mothers, or maybe you’re trying to live up to an unrealistic ideal, maybe you’re trying to live up to other peoples expectations. Whatever the reason, mom guilt is a real and is shared by many moms around the globe.
So how do you cope with mom guilt? Here are ten tips.
Tip #1: Talk to Other Mothers
One of the best ways to cope with mom guilt is to talk to other mothers. When you’re feeling guilty, it’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who feels this way. But the truth is, many mothers feel guilty about their parenting choices. Talking to other mothers can help you realize that you’re not alone in your feelings. It can also help you get tips on how to see things differently, as many times we can get stuck in one of of thinking.
Tip #2: Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself
It’s important to remember that you’re doing the best you can. You’re not perfect, and that’s okay. The goal of parenting is not perfection. Parenting does not come with a manual. There are many external factors such as temperament, circumstances, enviomentment that can effect your parenting.
Tip #3: Make Time for Yourself
It’s important to make time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes each day. Taking some time to relax and recharge will help you feel better and be a better mother. I’m sure you’ve heard the statement “ you can’t pour from an empty cup”. Parenting reuiqres us to uphold multiple roles as we juggle our children’s energy and moods. Make sure you take some time to do small meaningulf things for yourself. You may need to delegate tasks to others, ask for help from friends and or family or even lower your expectations (like having the dishes not done that very moment ) if it means you get to walk outside in nature for 20 minutes or grab yourself a tea break.
Tip #4: Set Realistic Expectations
Don’t expect perfection from yourself or your children. Things will go wrong, but that doesn’t mean you’re a bad mother. Setting realistic expectations will help you cope with mom guilt. No one likes to be judged and ridiculed, this also includes children. So give yourself a break from that critical voice and allow things to just be atimes without the urge to making them perfect.
Tip #5: Get Some Sleep
Easier said then done, right? But sleep deprivation can make mom guilt worse as tiredness thorughout your day may lead you to not geting the basics done. Leaving room for self criticism and judgment. If you’re tired, you’re also more likely to feel anxious and stressed. If you have little one’s trying to nap when they do may help, if you have multiple children or slightly older you can ask someone for help while you get a nap in.
Tip #6: Take a Break
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take small breaks in your day. If you can tep away from the situation do so, if you can’t then train yourself to take some deep breaths, and focus on your breath. There are many breathing techniques on the internet that are helpful like PACE breathing. You can also try and give your children a task to do like painting or coloring while you make yourself a cup of tea and do nothing. Yes, nothing! We tend to fill all moments of wakefulness with something to do. Learning to take small breaks in creative ways can help us full our cups.
Tip #7: Find a Support Group
There are many support groups for mothers in person or online. These groups can provide emotional support and practical advice. If you’re struggling with mom guilt, consider joining a support group. Check with your local community centre or library for leads.
Tip #8: Seek Professional Help
If you’re trying to cope and find yourself struggling with mom guilt despite your efforts you may want to seek professional help. A therapist can help you understand and cope with your feelings as well as connect you to the right resources.
Tip # 9: Surround yourself with supportive people
We are social beings not meant for isolation. It may seem easier to avoid people and just get things done, however, this may the very reason you feel overwhelmed and alone. You’re not alone, many parents all over the world, from all walks of life struggle with mom guilt. Talking to people, asking your friends and family for help, visiting the library and community centre or your local place of workship can help you feel connected.
We hope these tips were helpful. Remember, you’re not alone in your feelings of mom guilt. Many mothers feel the same way. If you’re struggling, talk to someone who can help, whether it’s a friend, family member, or therapist. And most importantly, be kind to yourself. You’re doing the best you can.
If you have any tips to add, please share them in the comments below! And if you’re struggling with mom guilt, we encourage you to reach out for help. You don’t have to go through this alone.
What are your thoughts on mom guilt? Do you have any tips to add? We’d love to hear from you!